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palmer_kun) wrote2004-09-16 04:15 am
palmer_kun) wrote2004-09-16 04:15 am
And thus an era comes to an end
Less than a week shy of the 18 month mark, Summer and I are no longer a couple.
*waits for gasps of shock and awe*
Yeah, it happened. And before you all start speculating, let me just say that the fact both of us met someone local ON THE SAME DAY had nothing to do with it. This is something that had been brewing for a while (over a month) and just finally resolved itself.
There were some problems... some inappropriate behaviour on both sides of the fence for various reasons, and a lot of heartache and pain has been endured by us both as a result.
Things were looking grim on Wednesday night, when we started talking and ended up at each other's throats almost instantly. Much mud was slung, pained accusations made... it was a good ole drag-out FIGHT. And it looked to be getting nowhere fast.
There was a VERY good chance that one of us was about to shout "I never want to see or hear about you ever again!" and eradicate the other from their life (most likely with the other party following suit)
But truth wins out... and when the real truth finally did come out... everything just clicked into place. And all of a sudden, we went from adversarial to... merely wary. And then... we were finally able to start TALKING again.
And before we knew it... things were back close to the way they used to be. We connected again, the old speech patterns returned, the jokes started up... and we began to trust each other again.
I went to close it out with a very brief phone call - just to end the night on a positive note... but well... we got to talking. Heh.
4 hours later... we were both feeling WAY better, and a lot more optimistic about the future.
No, we're no longer a couple. But we still love and care for each other, and will be close friends.
Summer left a brief entry about it here: http://www.livejournal.com/users/yuffers/63444.html?style=mine
*waits for gasps of shock and awe*
Yeah, it happened. And before you all start speculating, let me just say that the fact both of us met someone local ON THE SAME DAY had nothing to do with it. This is something that had been brewing for a while (over a month) and just finally resolved itself.
There were some problems... some inappropriate behaviour on both sides of the fence for various reasons, and a lot of heartache and pain has been endured by us both as a result.
Things were looking grim on Wednesday night, when we started talking and ended up at each other's throats almost instantly. Much mud was slung, pained accusations made... it was a good ole drag-out FIGHT. And it looked to be getting nowhere fast.
There was a VERY good chance that one of us was about to shout "I never want to see or hear about you ever again!" and eradicate the other from their life (most likely with the other party following suit)
But truth wins out... and when the real truth finally did come out... everything just clicked into place. And all of a sudden, we went from adversarial to... merely wary. And then... we were finally able to start TALKING again.
And before we knew it... things were back close to the way they used to be. We connected again, the old speech patterns returned, the jokes started up... and we began to trust each other again.
I went to close it out with a very brief phone call - just to end the night on a positive note... but well... we got to talking. Heh.
4 hours later... we were both feeling WAY better, and a lot more optimistic about the future.
No, we're no longer a couple. But we still love and care for each other, and will be close friends.
Summer left a brief entry about it here: http://www.livejournal.com/users/yuffers/63444.html?style=mine
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*sigh*
Things WERE horrid from sunday to about midnight wednesday... but truth wins out in the end, and it did in our case.
And once it did come out, the entire tone of our interactions pulled a 120 (not quite 180, but pretty far around)
Summer didn't feel that a strong love-relationship was appropriate at this time, nor what she wanted. The only problem, in the end, was that she didn't tell me a month ago when this came up.
But she did last night, and all the pieces fell into place for me, and all the anger vanished almost instantly.
Fast forward a few hours... and we were virtually right back to where we always were before... only better in a lot of ways. Less (but not worse) in some respects, but better overall. And our interpersonal comfort level (which was always high) has gotten even higher than ever.
And we're still tenatively on for an xmas break visit.
So really guys... same love, same affection between us... just a slightly different relationship. Less... tied down, so to speak. Which is good.
The only thing I'm worried about at this point is my recovery from this ordeal (the teacher noticed something was wrong with me as soon as I walked into class... OY!)