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OMG Friends Cut!
Sep. 25th, 2006 12:54 amWas reading some posts tonight, and they spurred me on to something I should have done a while ago.
Snip snip snip. Cleaning up the old friends list. Removed a number of people... no reason to hang on to them.
Like I told a friend tonight... I'm done. I'm walking away. There were good memories... but memories are no reason to hang on. The past is the past, and my philosophy has always been to leave it there.
I'm still working on the RPG, and in situations like this, I understand why the name appealed to me so much.
Deeds, Not Words. It's a good philosophy, and one that's ultimately central to my life. It's also something I expect from my close friends.
Deeds matter. Actions. Words are empty. It's easy for someone to say, for instance, "I still consider you a friend." But when they don't act like a friend... what do the words mean?
So I've taken action. I'm letting go of some parts of my past. I've had to do it before, and I've never liked it. But I do it nonetheless.
This is not to say that I ever close the door on my past. There was someone a couple years ago who pulled some pretty nasty shit on me. Abused my trust, fucked me around, and then shut me out and kept a bunch of my stuff. And so I let go.
But just the other day, this person emailed me. With an apology, and offer to return what she had. She was expecting me to delete the email sight unseen, or to biteher head off, or any number of other nasty things.
She's still a tad confused by the fact that not only did I read and reply to her email, but that I accepted her apology, forgave her actions, and welcomed her back with open arms. Sure, she knows that she's on thin ice. Distrust is still there, and things are a tad sensitive. But if her deeds match her words, that won't be an issue at all.
The door is not closed. I'm walking away from my past, but you can always catch up with me. You just needs to make some effort to do so.
Whether or not you may think the effort is worthwhile is up to you. And it's never too late.
Snip snip snip. Cleaning up the old friends list. Removed a number of people... no reason to hang on to them.
Like I told a friend tonight... I'm done. I'm walking away. There were good memories... but memories are no reason to hang on. The past is the past, and my philosophy has always been to leave it there.
I'm still working on the RPG, and in situations like this, I understand why the name appealed to me so much.
Deeds, Not Words. It's a good philosophy, and one that's ultimately central to my life. It's also something I expect from my close friends.
Deeds matter. Actions. Words are empty. It's easy for someone to say, for instance, "I still consider you a friend." But when they don't act like a friend... what do the words mean?
So I've taken action. I'm letting go of some parts of my past. I've had to do it before, and I've never liked it. But I do it nonetheless.
This is not to say that I ever close the door on my past. There was someone a couple years ago who pulled some pretty nasty shit on me. Abused my trust, fucked me around, and then shut me out and kept a bunch of my stuff. And so I let go.
But just the other day, this person emailed me. With an apology, and offer to return what she had. She was expecting me to delete the email sight unseen, or to biteher head off, or any number of other nasty things.
She's still a tad confused by the fact that not only did I read and reply to her email, but that I accepted her apology, forgave her actions, and welcomed her back with open arms. Sure, she knows that she's on thin ice. Distrust is still there, and things are a tad sensitive. But if her deeds match her words, that won't be an issue at all.
The door is not closed. I'm walking away from my past, but you can always catch up with me. You just needs to make some effort to do so.
Whether or not you may think the effort is worthwhile is up to you. And it's never too late.
